Monday, April 06, 2015


Dear Universe,
In the spirit of putting it all out there and going after what I want, here is what I would like in a future partner:

  1. Smart – doesn't have to have an off the charts IQ but no one wants to be with an idiot
  2. Funny – doesn't need to be a comedian but be able to find the humour in most situations.  Be able to laugh at himself. 
  3. Kind
  4. Financially stable/successful
  5. Can communicate his feelings/thoughts without me having to hitch an F-150 to them and drag them out of him
  6. Is a happy person – more positive than negative, good perspective on life.
  7. Able to be a partner
  8. Decent relationship with ex – doesn’t have to be best friends but should be able to talk/work things thru without lawyers and/or screaming matches
  9. Loves his children and has a good relationship with them
  10. Able to prioritize – not just work and responsibilities, but the people  in his life.  If he has kids, they are always a priority but able to make me feel like one as well. 
  11. Tall enough – doesn’t need to be 6’ 4”, but I would prefer not shorter than me without high heels
  12. Affectionate
  13. Strength of character
  14. Have ethics and a sense of justice
  15. Roots for the underdog – doesn’t have to be all the time but sometimes is good
  16. Be able to stand up for himself – even if his opinion is the unpopular one
  17. Good kisser
  18. Good in bed
  19. A dog person
  20. Good with families
  21. Good with people with disabilities
  22. Loves to travel
  23. Open to adventure
  24. Open mind
  25. Is ok with my crazy, demanding job
  26. Has a life of his own, friends of his own  and wants the same for  me.  
  27. Doesn’t sweat the small stuff – we all do occasionally but has enough life experience to know when to fish or cut bait. 
  28. Wants to get married again
  29. Knows what he wants and goes for it
  30. Can keep a secret/be discreet
  31. Has dealt with his issues from previous relationships and knows himself. 
  32. Is not ugly – please let him not be ugly.  I know that this is really shallow, but come on, I have to look at this face for the rest of my life.  I would like it to be somewhat attractive.
  33. Knows that romance, the true kind and not the Hallmark version, is incredibly hot
  34. Knows how to listen

I know that this seems like a paragon of virtue but he has to be out there somewhere, someone who has most of these traits. 

Universe, thank for hearing my request.  I will continue my search until I find the one that makes my heart skip a beat and wants want I want - to love and be loved in that crazy, inconvenient, all-consuming way that real love is.  

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